Today I would also like to stand still and focus on all the women that didn’t become a mother.
- Some of you are not mothers by choice.
- Some of you are not mothers despite every effort you could make.
Whatever your reason for being childless, please know this: you are indeed a source of life to the world.
When I realized I wouldn’t become a mum my entire philosophy on life changed. Everything from career goals to relationships changed. I was so sure I too would be a mother one day. I’m sharing this with you as more people than I know don’t try to understand my sorrow and those of women who didn’t become a mother. It amazes me how many times I’m asked ‘are those your kids?’ even by people who I may call acquaintances. Or ‘how many kids do you have?’ ‘wouldn’t you have liked to have kids?’, ‘I understand, you are more focussed on your career?’ But this is the topper ‘why didn’t you have kids?’ Once people know I’m a quilter they just presume I too have kids. Funny that quilting is associated with nurture by so many. For me quilting is inspiring and broadens my creative self-expression. I just love learning more about the art and skill of quilt-making.
Today I realize I’m not one of the celebrated women in the world and I live in a world that doesn't celebrate women in general. You have to have that special status: being a mother.
I guess this is one of the by-products of buying into the commercialized illusion of Mother’s day. A large group of women is excluded today in today’s holiday.
So I’ll close this post with part of this lyric
Oh yes I am wise
But it's wisdom born of pain
Yes, I've paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to I can face anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman